• Becky Upchurch

Self awareness

Do you ever feel like you don’t have the mental energy to deal with some of the things you believe to be priorities? What if I told you that it might be the result of all of the UNSEEN things you are already dealing with?!

As humans, we only have so much mental end emotional bandwith…so if we use it on the wrong things, we don’t have enough for the things that matter!


One of the first tasks I was given during my early coaching studies was to create a list of 100 tolerations I could address. At the time, the idea that I could come up with 100 things that I was silently tolerating seemed crazy…but the deeper I got into it, the more I learned to notice even the little things. The slightly leaning door on my vanity? Unrecognized toleration. Pants that didn’t fit quite right? Same! As I began to recognize and address the small things I was tolerating, I started to see just how much mental energy they had been taking up. And the strangest part? I didn’t even realize it! The thing is, whether we realize it or not, the things we choose to tolerate, both intentionally and unintentionally, can have a HUGE impact on our mental energy! In fact, there may be things that are draining you right now that you aren’t even aware of!

This week, I encourage you to start looking for hidden tolerations, things that you may be putting up with that that may be weighing on you every day. These might be “major” things like an unreliable coworker, health issue, or disobedient child or “minor” ones like a lopsided chair leg, a crooked zipper or missing button on a coat, or a cracked cell phone screen. Try to make a list of AT LEAST 25, but don’t get overwhelmed---you don’t have to address them all right now, or at all! The focus on this first step is simply to build AWARENESS of all of the hidden mental drains that may exist in your day-to-day life. Once you’ve begun to identify them, THEN we can discuss what to do with them!

And if this process starts to feel overwhelming? Reach out! I’m happy to help😊



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