I used to think that I had bad luck. As in, there was a period in my life where I seriously started asking myself WHAT IN THE WORLD I had done in a past life to create such bad karma. So the story I was carrying around was that I had terrible luck and that I just couldn’t ever catch a break and maybe never would. SO DRAMATIC, I know...but when I was in it, it felt SO real…and pretty awful…and I couldn’t for the life of me figure out why it was happening TO me.
Years later, I now realize two SUPER-important things:
1. Nothing was happening TO me. Things were just happening…and I was giving them meaning based on the story I had created.
2. The REASON I kept seeing evidence of the meaning I created was because I was SO married to my story that I wasn’t able to see anything else.
Fast forward to today, and guess what? ALL of the same circumstances could happen to me, and I would see something TOTALLY different. Why? Because I RELEASED the old story that was NOT helping me…and I created a NEW story that actually turned it into something AMAZING. Because my NEW STORY is all about how resilient I am….and how my struggles have created that superpower…and how I am CONFIDENT that I can navigate ANYTHING life throw as me. What a difference, right?!
You see, creating change in ANY area of your life requires two things. The first is DOING something different. The second is SEEING yourself in a new way. So when it feels like your story doesn’t serve you, remember this: You ALWAYS have the option to re-write it!
So what does that look like?!
The first step to rewriting your old stories in order to create something new and useful is to get clear on your current perspective and what you have been telling yourself…about your life, your abilities, and who you are. Use the questions below to help you get started and be as specific and detailed as possible:
What are some assumptions you have made about who you are and what you are capable of?
What limitations have you placed on yourself?
Where do you see yourself as having fallen short?
How do you talk to yourself?
What are some of the specific thoughts you have about yourself or some of the specific things you say to yourself?
What are some things you wish you could have, see, or do that you don’t believe are possible?
Now that you have gotten all of that out on paper, consider the idea that you may be operating from a skewed perspective…and that you are perhaps much more capable, talented, and successful than you have been telling yourself. Begin rewriting the story of who you are, what you are capable of, and what life has to offer you. And if there are any areas where you still believe you may fall short or not have what you need to be successful, think about the choices you need to make in order to make those shifts happen. What might be possible for you? Who do you need to become in order to get what you want? How will you show up for yourself, for others, and in the world?
Once you have an idea of what you are capable of and who you need to show up as to achieve it, you can begin stepping into the life you want! Need help? I've got you!
